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Sat, 25 May 2013 19:03:16 -0400

I’m not offended by homosexuality.

Sat, 25 May 2013 12:15:20 -0400

I’m not offended by homosexuality.

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Thu, 23 May 2013 10:32:55 -0400

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Thu, 23 May 2013 09:50:18 -0400

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Thu, 23 May 2013 09:48:38 -0400

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Thu, 23 May 2013 09:46:25 -0400

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Thu, 23 May 2013 09:41:48 -0400

A Letter to Whomever Languishes in Ardorous Feelings Towards a Friend

Wed, 22 May 2013 17:09:55 -0400

I have also languished in this field where naught but the golden rose grows, but my sickly eyes view the gold as crimson. Having spent far too many months in such a field, a moment of clarity such as now is rare as the blue moon in February.

Now that I have my poeticness of my thoughts typed out, I will drop these pretensions. I’ve been reading The Great Gatsby, and its style has a beat that joins that of my hearSTOP IT. Ugh, my fingers drip with purple. Sigh, anywho, today I will be sharing some of my thoughts of the fictitious friendzone, and what I will assume to be my final exit from it.

My love life has, for lack of a better term, has always been quasimodo. That is not to say that most of the women I had been interested in were already invested in someone else from the military, but rather that my love life has been sub-standard in that its all been one-sided. The women I have liked in the past never really liked me in return (which really isn’t too far of a stretch from Quasimodo, now that I think about it.)

The times I had gotten into a relationship were one-sided for them, because I went out with anything that admitted feelings for me. I don’t blame myself though; I was an awkward teenager, who didn’t know the importance of gender roles, and that the man should ask the woman out, and who didn’t have the dedication to lose weight. After getting into college, I decided to change how I look at life.

At first I decided to do this change because I wanted to improve my love-life—wanted to to transform myself into a more attractive person. I bought various books on dating advice, and spent the majority of the time on the internet looking up even more. I began going to the gym, and ferociously started working out, perfecting my exercise regimen in the process. However, despite my efforts, nothing new came to me. I had talked with women more flirtatiously, but nothing was reciprocated. I felt depressed; it was as if all my effort had been wasted. I even entered the fictitious friendzone a third time, which I am still in the process of leaving.

Wasted, though, is hardly anyway to describe the process of becoming healthier. In addition to that, while my flirting had been unsuccessful with wooing women, it had helped me learn to pay attention to subtler body language cues. Looking up dating advice may have been a lost venture, but it had allowed me to realize how desperate I was being. I viewed love as the very pinnacle of life, when that simply is not true.

There are so many things in live that are multi-faceted, I had inferred, and the motivation for one’s goals are included as a facet of one’s character. What had the motivation for all these improvements been? Pleasing others in order to make myself happy, but it’s impossible to please any one for certain; impossible for all except one person: you. You are the only person that you can most definitely please, as I am the only person I can most definitely please.

The friendzone is the combination of insecurity and the desire to please others. All three times I have been in it, I had been too insecure to either progress the relationship when I should have, or too insecure to walk away from the relationship, fearing I would never find someone like them. The desire to please, viewed ideally, led to endless endearing acts that led them to feel genuinely sweet emotions about me, but left me feeling hurt for lack of reciprocation. Viewed cynically, the desire led to fear of abandoning them by getting out of this one-way love affair.

Realizing this, I began to shift the motivation for my goals. Instead of trying to please others to please myself, I cut out the middle man. Now, anytime I do something to further my goals, I do it with the intention of making myself feel good in the process. This is not to say I do nothing for others: right now, I am writing an essay for those who seek solace while frisking the friendzone. However, I only do things for people when, as rude as it sounds, it benefits me in some way. However, not always through material means. Writing this benefits me because I feel good when I express my opinions. Getting someone a gift benefits me when I put thought into the gift, and it expresses my creativity. Performing for others benefits me because I am passionate about singing, and love singing as much as old people love hard candy.

Hence, my advice to those who wish to escape from the friendzone is this: whoever they are right now will likely not change their feelings for you. This is neither their fault, nor your fault. I suggest that you focus energy on something else, preferably something that will benefit you in some way. I have learned that these people we idolize, despite our feelings otherwise, are replaceable. This is not to say that I suggest you repeat this process, or that this person is not special in their own way. I have learned, though, that it is always possible to find someone else. I also suggest taking a break from this relationship, and from romance in general, until you feel like you are prepared to take a relationship to the next level. This person, if they are a true friend, will question why you stopped hanging out as much, at which point I suggest you answer truthfully. If they are a good person, they will understand and let you do what you must. Most importantly, I suggest that you do something that makes you feel self-worth on a regular basis, if you do not already. After I began doing that, it really made a difference in how I feel and, in turn, how another person feels about me.

I end this essay with one last anecdote: once I began doing things for myself, instead of for others, I began to find myself in situations where I was hanging out with different people from my classes, men and women, and getting along with people more easily than ever before. A couple girls even began flirting with me. It’s amazing, the things about us that are murmured into our ears, but those which seem to be presenting themselves to everyone one else.

So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into theSTOP THAT!

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Wed, 22 May 2013 16:08:31 -0400

Capturing the Attention of the Signs:

Wed, 22 May 2013 15:38:22 -0400

psych-facts:

Aquarius – Bring out the Brain Teasers and get ready for a few rounds of intellectual stimulation with your Aquarian because if there’s a future for you both, intelligence, adventure, challenges and creativity will win their heart for sure.

Pisces – Grab a big coffee, snuggle up on the couch and get into a deep conversation about spirituality or astrology and if you’ve got problems in your life, even better! Share all the details as Pisces are very attracted to people who need help to solve their personal problems.

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As a Taurus, I think making a meal for anyone will incite some kind of positive emotion, especially if the meal is something that is presented really well and tastes exquisite. As for the “slow to fall in love” thing, it really depends on the person being viewed. If it’s someone I’m more likely to find attractive, I’ll fall for them sooner than someone I find less attractive.

Wrong Space Place: let me just point out that the only thing i would be legitimately...

Wed, 22 May 2013 15:32:25 -0400

Wrong Space Place: let me just point out that the only thing i would be legitimately...:

ghoulscomecrawling:

let me just point out that the only thing i would be legitimately angry over about yahoo taking over tumblr, is if they get rid of any and all porn.

yeah i know that not everyone looks at porn, and a lot of people want it all gone, but really. suck it up.

tumblr is one of the few places that allow free porn. and not everyone has to look at porn blogs on here, you dont have to follow something you dont want to follow. hell, thats why i made my own porn blog, so none of y’all would have to see it if ya didnt want to.

most of the blogs on here are porn blogs, and a lot of people that have them upload their own content in order to keep it all together. because holy shit have you had a subscription to a porn site lately? thats a lot of money. especially if you want to maybe upload something on it not even every other month.

so why dont y’all take a step back and stop trying to beg them to get rid of the porn blogs.

cause once again. you only think of yourselves. you guys can download a blacklist program or what not if it bothers you so much.

Reblog if you're a cuddler.

Wed, 22 May 2013 13:53:46 -0400

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trustmeimastomach: The console wars are over.

Wed, 22 May 2013 09:42:39 -0400

trustmeimastomach:

The console wars are over.

iwishihadafather: i want this to be the only decoration in my...

Wed, 22 May 2013 09:42:22 -0400

iwishihadafather:

i want this to be the only decoration in my entire house

i-have-a-whore-certificate: vickyblogging: N-NO, ANYTHING BUT...

Wed, 22 May 2013 09:41:42 -0400

i-have-a-whore-certificate:

vickyblogging:

N-NO, ANYTHING BUT THOSE KINDS OF THEORIES

I’M GETTING HORRIBLE EVER17 FLASHBACKS

GET THAT SHIT OUT OF MY ANIMEEEEEEEEES

*GROSS SOBBING*

I was kind of thinking of Ever17 too while reading the novel. I haven’t read Ever17 yet, but I’m thinking of doing so.

Finally saw Brave

Tue, 21 May 2013 10:29:41 -0400

It was a decent movie, but ParaNorman deserved the Acadamy Award more than Brave did in my opinion.

peixesticks: ohio fucking sucks full of goddamn corn no...

Tue, 21 May 2013 09:38:17 -0400

peixesticks:

ohio fucking sucks full of goddamn corn no wonder

cloudcuckoolander527: alicelostinneverland: merlinwhosuperpotte...

Sun, 19 May 2013 23:42:38 -0400

cloudcuckoolander527:

alicelostinneverland:

merlinwhosuperpotterlock:

I actually think this was pretty responsible. Rather than banning it outright, which would result in kids wanting to rebel even more, she offers it in her home where she can control the amount people drink. Good on ya, Mrs George. You’re a cool mom.

She also offered her daughter a condom when she was hooking up with a guy instead of freaking out and kicking the guy out of the house.

It’s kinda funny how she is simultaneously an out-there parent, yet not a bad one. She might actually understand that her daughter is a anger-ridden teenager who can’t be easily controlled and restricted, so instead of telling her what she can’t do, she tries to guide her to a safer decision. I’m not saying I’m 100% cool with how she executes it, but hey, not a bad parent when you think about it.

pjcalamity: neekcreep: hogwarts-express: fuckin lilo I’m...

Sun, 19 May 2013 23:39:29 -0400

pjcalamity:

neekcreep:

hogwarts-express:

fuckin lilo

I’m fucking dying

LILO NO