THE LOOK ON HIS FACE IN THE LAST ONE LIKE “dad i know EXACTLY what u gotta do”
So I’ve finally decided to post something really personal. Putting my opinion out here is kinda masochistic. hear me out.
TW: Some swearing
I’ve always been on the fence about gender equality/feminism/men’s rights, the whole schtick.
I always had an amazon complex. I thought women were more beautiful, more capable, smarter and even better biologically built than men were. Women are better caretakers, better at sports and better at everything in my mind and other women assured me of that. That is why I seem to realize with feminism, despite talk of “equality for all” and “we like men too”, there is still a superiority complex and inherent disgust, if not distrust, of men.
Reading modern feminist thoughts and the whole “misandry joke” thing I felt like a true feminist and it reassured my of my feelings of superiority. My disgust of men and glorification of women was completely right, that my paranoia of getting raped or groped walking down the street was perfectly natural. YEAH DOWN WITH MEN!
Often the hype around rape culture incites the thought that men are much more capable of rape and violence than genuine love and that women are simply wonderful vulnerable creatures waiting to be victimized. This is leading many a feminist to the conclusion that “men cannot be raped! (and/or raped by women)” or it’s just not worth considering what happens to men, if they get raped, they deserve it. Men are just so powerful-they are not capable of being raped, and even if they were, they’re so privileged-they can get over it!
However I liked feminism, I felt like there was no real equality and modern feminism at its core was about women’s issues- not equality. Take for instance, reproductive rights. Despite the fact that it takes both a man and a woman to produce a child (or..at least a sperm and an egg), and that child has equal parts of the two people’s DNA-it is the woman’s (and the woman’s ONLY) decision to keep the pregnancy, take full custody of the child if anything happens, and take care of the child-in the pro-choice/feminist view.
Men should not be allowed in the decision process, because as men- they don’t have feelings or form attachments to their own offspring(!) and even if they do, they don’t carry the child so in the end their feelings, their commitment, their love for their offspring doesn’t matter because as implied before, men are just not capable of loving the way a woman can. Their support is not needed and not wanted.
This makes pregnancy a sort of burden that only women are cursed to bear. Puzzlingly, other times pregnancy is used by feminists as the “power of women” to show how superior women are-we can create and nurture life inside of us-you men can only destroy it or abandon it. Motherhood is both rejected and embraced at the same time!
Another thing that bothered me is feminist censorship. The word “slut” is somehow reclaimed but the word “bitch” is evil. Why?? Bitch has become a sort of affectionate term for a powerful woman, and it was never really that bad in the first place, you could take pride in being a bitch. But slut, well it was never positive. Why censor a word women like to use and elevate another? And why the hate on rape jokes? It’s strange because the act itself is not funny. No one thinks actual rape itself is funny, no one wants to commit the act after hearing a joke about it. When we joke about something, we don’t reference the act itself, we reference a theoretical kind of situation or nothing at all. We laugh at something- mock it- because it’s nonsensical-not because it’s real and not because we like it.
And the kicker: I don’t believe in patriarchy. Not the system itself, just the mythical term that feminism has popularized. WHAT is it, exactly? Is it all men, collectively? Is it male leaders or men in power? Is it all fathers, grandfathers, and great-grandfathers and so on? Is it men that have done bad things and the people that support them? I don’t know. As far as the feminist doctrine goes, I can only define it as the ominous male power that caused all inequality in the world. The literal/anthropological interpretation is a familial/tribal system wherein men make most of the decisions and take the responsibility, esp. in a family or in a state. I don’t view male power and fatherhood as negative things or conducive to oppressing women. I do believe in oppression, but it’s more complex than women being oppressed by men and men benefiting from it.
What do I mean by that? Though we vie for them, dream about a women-ruled world, women-leaders usually don’t become the wonderful compassionate people we expect them to be. India has had a few female prime ministers, each have been accused of pretty bad crimes. Margaret Thatcher is still rejected by many people for leaving them in poverty and pain. And the less we say about Sarah Palin the better. The point is, if you believe in true equality, it doesn’t matter if a woman is the leader or a man is. They have the same potential for both good and evil. Again an undercurrent of “women are better than men” is present.
Now to the femen part. Only sort of recently has femen really gained any popularity, it’s kind of been bubbling underneath European apathy. To be honest the same problem lies here as with other “victimhood” scenarios. The women protest topless, I assume using what they feel is their “sexual prowess”(traditional female attributes) to direct the public gaze at serious issues. This isn’t bad in itself, it is just completely ineffective and counterproductive.This assumes that the audience is too stupid and sex-crazed to pay attention to clothed women. The issues take the back stage to the loud “liberation” of the women and often presented in a backwards way. Take the recent “topless jihad”. It brought attention to the issue of “Islamism” or the harshness of the laws in some Islamic countries, but it obviously offended Muslim women because the logic used was “Islam is evil, women are not evil, therefore you are brainwashed into Islam and must be freed from your delusions”. Thus reducing Muslim women’s sense of agency and spiritual choices.
Let me step back into my personal experience-As a “spiritual” person I do not choose to believe anything, I just know. No matter how many times I deny it- I know, I feel, I experience. As feminist-atheists I understand your assertions that religion is evil, but no matter how loud you shout, how many crosses you saw in half, and what symbols you use as shock value- you do not reduce anyone’s “belief” in anything and you are just saying what we already know about countries with harsh laws.
Here again is the problem with modern feminism, the supporters don’t really care what YOU think, what YOUR morals actually are-they just want to you to know “fuck you”.”Fuck you, you’re evil” “Fuck your religion” “Fuck your traditions” “Fuck your values”. This doesn’t empower anyone but them and makes them feel like the best people ever for condemning whoever they want.
I don’t take issue with femen-ists exposing their breasts or gathering in protest. I agree that the stigma around female breasts is ridiculous and exhausting. However the message of peace is not spread with aggression. Standing in front of a mosque, burning a flag, or screaming at people who just want to pray in a mosque is not spreading peace and love and understanding. Love spreads love. Anger only makes your opposition stronger and makes you look the fool.
Why? There is something called audience receptivity, and when you immediately get loud and angry you alienate the audience, Not caring about alienating your audience misses the whole point of a protest or a movement- to get people on your side!
This is why the nonviolent civil rights movement was so successful and accomplished lasting change, it was inclusive and didn’t really get angry or fight anyone. Ghandi marched with whoever would join him, the early feminists sought the support of men. They didn’t try to blame anyone directly. THAT is what I feel we are missing from feminists today, the solution, not the blame.
guys PLEASE do not buy the xbox one
do not buy any video game console that is so anti consumer and one that shuts out small video game retailers
I actually went on the official site and I read the rules
this is actually accurate, very accurate
(via foreverforelsket)Source: minecraftparody
You get home from a long day at work and turn on the TV. It’s been a long week, so you think to yourself- maybe i’ll take the family to a movie on Saturday. Maybe we’ll even go on a vacation soon! We could visit museums and go to plays and see all sorts of fun attractions.
When you turned the TV on, nothing happened. There are no actors to entertain you.
When you went to the movie theater, nothing was showing. There were no advertisements to tell you that anything was showing, so you went to the theater to find out. Nothing playing. There is no one to film and create movies for you. Well at least your vacation will be fun, right? Not like there will be any plays to see and there won’t be anything in the art museums.
Well at least you have the shack you are living in that you made out of cardboard and sheets.
Not like you could find an architect to build you a house with all the money you’re making as an engineer.
THE FUCK DID YOU JUST SAY TO ME
THERE WOULD BE NO ROAD SIGNS OR INFORMATIONAL BROCHURES
THERE WOULD BE NO GODDAMN KEYS ON YOUR FUCKING LAPTOP
I WOULD PUNCH YOU IN THE FUCKING FACE BUT WITHOUT GRAPHIC DESIGN HOW WOULD I LEARN TO DO THAT
lol I guess that community college that was completed fairly recently by my dad a county down built itself
I just sent this tweet to NBC.
If these majors are so useless, then who designed the graphic used to announce this on your show?
I think they meant lowest job availability (which fits all five of those well) but it’s still terrible that they called them “useless.” In my opinion, actuary sciences (you know, like what the picture does) is more useless than architecture.Source: boyfroend